Accompanying Age

Accompanied by age, comes a whole new reflection of personal traits and characteristics. When we were young, we often judge many books by its cover. Probably because we do not understand, or perhaps its the fact that we could not cope with so many variables in life yet.

After today's gathering, I just felt a seemingly visible change in everybody and perhaps even myself. I just feel that somehow everybody has developed positively. I remember back then, we were all judgmental, group minded, comprehensive and maybe even competitive in our own nature. Back then, words, gossips, grapevines and rumors spread like wild fire and people believe what they hear, which resulted in a developed behavior. This often developed into a negative groupthink, which led to hostility and separation.

But as years went by, I could feel that people begin to put their differences aside and somewhat accept one another for who they are. People simply remove that judgmental ideology and enjoy the efforts made to create socialization and improvement of relationship bonds. I mean every effort counts, to make an attempt to regroup and reconnect. Nevertheless, thankfully there are those who provide the necessary linkages.

Once again, I believe that what I saw and experienced tonight, was the state-of-the-art brilliance of social acceptance among groups. And somehow, we have managed to put our differences aside and learn to accept other's flaws, habits, personalities and behaviors. Though some may be undesirable, I feel that today instead of being judgmental, these people work around it and perhaps excel a "you-are-who-I-might/or-not-care" attitude. Nevertheless, I've seen some who made an effort to convince one another to change.

For such, I've seen that a person who used to be so hurtful in ITS words, would become more wise in the choice of words. I've seen today that a person who used to be as PROUD, has become a sort that listens attentively. I've seen that a needy fellowship, become a motherly independent individual. And lastly, I've seen that some people stay who they are for a long time, because they are who they are.

Those are simply examples, but I believe that time does change a person - whether incrementally or a quantum leap approach is another point of reference. So people do change, but I guess credits would have to go to the change agents (friends) who are open and honest to help out in the change process.

And comparing myself back then and now, I find myself going under into secrecy and often choosing the right words to use. For one, being too informative often has led to many misunderstandings and the loss of conversational excite. And latter, people tend to have a selective element to the listening process and they associate and react differently to various words used. Then again, there comes the matter of understanding one another and their backgrounds.

"Accompanying age comes a better fellowship" - frostdude